Recommended Resources
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Books, films, and websites I find myself recommending again and again. No affiliate links — just things I genuinely believe in, organized by the terrain they cover. Take what’s useful and leave the rest.
ACOA
1 resourceBook
Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
ADHD
1 resourceBook
Scattered Minds
Boundaries
1 resourceBook
Boundaries and Relationships
Codependency
3 resourcesBook
Boundaries and Relationships
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Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
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The Language of Letting Go
Grief
1 resourceBook
A Monster Calls
The story of a 13-year old boy trying to work through the big emotions that arise with the impending death of his mother. Book was adapted into a film.
Inner Child
5 resourcesBook
Boundaries and Relationships
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Children of Trauma: Rediscovering Your Discarded Self
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Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
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Homecoming
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Recovery of Your Inner Child
Intensive Therapy Programs
7 resourcesWebsite
Begin Again Institute
Began Again Institute offers intensive therapy programs for men who seeking to further recovery from sex addiction. They also provide support for partners while their male partners are going through the program. Located in Longmont, CO.
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Bethesda Workshops
Located in Nashville, TN, offers Christian based intensive programs for men seeking to further their recovery for sex addiction.
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Krush Counseling
Jill specializes in navigating codependency, depression, anxiety, stress management, trauma healing, and substance abuse issues. Located in Boulder, CO.
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Mountain View Farms
Aubrey offers counseling for adults and children. Features incorporating of horses, dogs, cats, and nature into the work. located in Topsham, VT
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Onsite Workshops
Located in Cumberland Furnace, Tennessee. Offers group programs such as Healing Trauma Program, Living Centered Program and adventure programs such as Montana Equine Program. Also offers Individual, Couples, and Family intensives.
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Psychological Counseling Services
PCS offers custom intensive therapy programs, located in Scottsdale, AZ
Marriage & Relationships
4 resourcesBook
Boundaries and Relationships
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How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
Considers childhood attachment styles and childhood wounds and how such unresolved issues manifest in current primary relationship. Has workbook section to help untangle relationship messes and helpful script for engaging in meaningful conversation. Book is written from Christian perspective but is not overly religious.
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Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy
Great book to learn more about emotionally intimate relationships.
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Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Simplifies relationship work.
Masculinity
5 resourcesBook
Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood
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The Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart, Poems for Men
Book of poetry for men.
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The Sex Talk You Never Got
Written from a Christian worldview.
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Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth about Men and Sex
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Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul
Classic text on masculinity. Written from Christian worldview.
Meditation & Reflection
6 resourcesBook
Answers in the Heart: Daily Meditations For Men And Women Recovering From Sex Addiction
Daily meditation guide for men who are in recovery for sex addiction.
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Drawing on Gratitude
A short, delightful guide to exploring gratitude through drawing.
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The Artist’s Way
Great resource for cultivating creativity.
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The Language of Letting Go
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The Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD
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Touchstones: A Book Of Daily Meditations For Men
Daily meditations for men in recovery for sex addiction.
Memoir
3 resourcesBook
Cat Daddy
Personal story of how Jackson got into addiction recovery as well as becoming at cat behavior expert.
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Naked in Public: A Memoir of Recovery From Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities
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Sounds Like Me, My Life (so far) in Song
Written by musician, Sara Bareilles. Chapter 4 is an amazing example of what self-compassion looks like. If you listen to the audio book that is read by the author, be sure to listen to the very end to hear the outtakes.
OCD
1 resourceBook
The Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD
Parenting
4 resourcesBook
A Monster Calls
The story of a 13-year old boy trying to work through the big emotions that arise with the impending death of his mother. Book was adapted into a film.
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Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance
New edition coming out soon, Mother Hunger, Revised Edition: Understand and Heal the Wounds of Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance, with new insights on men and Mother Hunger, first-born daughters, and parenting while recovering from it.
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Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive
Parenting from a neuroscience perspective.
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Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes: Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing
Pet Loss
4 resourcesBook
My Cat Has Died: What do I do?
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P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna
Delightful, heartwarming book on grieving the loss of one's beloved cat.
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The Pet Loss Companion
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When Your Pet Dies
Poetry & Creative Writing
2 resourcesAudiobook
The Poetry of Self Compassion
Audio recording of a talk David Whyte gave on the topic of Self Compassion.
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The Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart, Poems for Men
Book of poetry for men.
Self-Compassion & Shame
6 resourcesBook
Daring Greatly
Fantastic book about shame and emotional vulnerability.
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Healing the Shame That Binds You
Classic text on understanding shame.
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Rising Strong
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Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise
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Sounds Like Me, My Life (so far) in Song
Written by musician, Sara Bareilles. Chapter 4 is an amazing example of what self-compassion looks like. If you listen to the audio book that is read by the author, be sure to listen to the very end to hear the outtakes.
Audiobook
The Poetry of Self Compassion
Audio recording of a talk David Whyte gave on the topic of Self Compassion.
Sex, Porn, & Love Addiction
16 resourcesBook
A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery
Book
Answers in the Heart: Daily Meditations For Men And Women Recovering From Sex Addiction
Daily meditation guide for men who are in recovery for sex addiction.
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Bethesda Workshops
Located in Nashville, TN, offers Christian based intensive programs for men seeking to further their recovery for sex addiction.
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Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
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Disclosing Secrets: An Addict’s Guide for When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal
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Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction
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Facing the Shadow (workbook)
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Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction
Written from Christian worldview.
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Naked in Public: A Memoir of Recovery From Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities
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No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction
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Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
Classic text on sex addiction.
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Psychological Counseling Services
PCS offers custom intensive therapy programs, located in Scottsdale, AZ
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Recovery Zone, Volume 1- Making Changes that Last: The Internal Tasks
Film
Thanks for Sharing
An honest view of 12-step recovery for sex addiction. Film does contain nudity.
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The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography
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Touchstones: A Book Of Daily Meditations For Men
Daily meditations for men in recovery for sex addiction.
Sex, Porn, & Love Addiction: Betrayed Partners
4 resourcesBook
Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies, and Secrets
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Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts (workbook)
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Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction (workbook)
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Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
Sexual Abuse Recovery
2 resourcesMusic
Make You
Powerful song about healing from childhood sexual abuse.
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The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse
Written from Christian worldview.
Sexuality-Male
2 resourcesBook
The Sex Talk You Never Got
Written from a Christian worldview.
Book
Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth about Men and Sex
Spirituality
1 resourceBook
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
Christian worldview.
Substance Abuse & Addiction
3 resourcesBook
A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery
Book
Cat Daddy
Personal story of how Jackson got into addiction recovery as well as becoming at cat behavior expert.
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In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction
Trauma & Healing
5 resourcesBook
Children of Trauma: Rediscovering Your Discarded Self
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Homecoming
Book
Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance
New edition coming out soon, Mother Hunger, Revised Edition: Understand and Heal the Wounds of Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance, with new insights on men and Mother Hunger, first-born daughters, and parenting while recovering from it.
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The Body Keeps The Score
A classic text on trauma and its effect on the body.
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Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes: Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing
General Mental Health
2 resourcesFilm
Inside Out
a creative look at the role of emotions in life
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National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) – Vermont chapter
Great resource for general mental health information
General Counseling Resources
4 resourcesWebsite
Blue Harbor Counseling
Matthew provides counseling for adults seeking help with disordered relationship with food, sexual abuse, and sex/porn addiction. Located in Edmonds, WA.
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Krush Counseling
Jill specializes in navigating codependency, depression, anxiety, stress management, trauma healing, and substance abuse issues. Located in Boulder, CO.
Website
Mountain View Farms
Aubrey offers counseling for adults and children. Features incorporating of horses, dogs, cats, and nature into the work. located in Topsham, VT
Cats
2 resourcesBook
Cat Daddy
Personal story of how Jackson got into addiction recovery as well as becoming at cat behavior expert.
Book
Think Like a Cat: How to Raise a Well-Adjusted Cat–Not a Sour Puss
Excellent resource for understanding cat behaviors and needs.